Sometimes you need a movie to put some things in perspective. Even it’s a really lame chickflick. (There’s a reason why these things are so darn popular you know). But while watching this movie I realised again how important it is to be yourself and to stay true to you and what’s important to you.
I think at some point we all have been in a relationship, or a friendship for that matter, where you tried to be a version of yourself you knew the other liked. The person you thought they wanted you to be. I think at some point we all changed things about ourselves, things that we felt we had to change. I know I did.
I changed dreams, I put them on hold, I’ve shoved aside the things I held most dear in my life for someone else. And just when I decided I never ever was going to do that again. I did it again anyway. At moments like this you find yourself unwillingly changing things to keep the other person happy. Or yourself. I don’t know. But I do know that in that process, you’re making yourself miserable.
But watching a movie today I realised that you don’t have to change parts about yourself. So I need daily time to create, to write, to play with ink, pen, or whatever. Even if I’m in a relationship and even when I’m not at home. I need it, like I need air and water. And I don’t have to change that. Because if you forcefully have to change things you love, than you’re not being yourself with that person. And there’s no shame in admitting that.